People always ask me "how do you do it with five??"
Five children is really no different than one, or none.
My five children keep me busy, make me happy, stress me out, cause confusion, make me laugh, make me cry, and fill my heart, mind and soul with goodness and sometimes other not so happy feelings. One child can do these same things. A job, a parent, a partner, and even a struggle of some sort can have a similar affect on your life.
Each day is a balancing act regardless of your calling.
Like most, I tend to forget this when I am consumed by my own life.
I think how hard simple things like going to the store can be, or how every time (and I mean everytime) I go out somewhere, I get stared at and asked in a shocking tone "ARE THEY ALL YOURS??". Some days I laugh it off, other days this question strikes a cord with me.
Yes five are more expensive than one, at times louder than two, on occasion messier than three or even ten but no different than none.
Those days when someone with none feels consumed with joy by the love they share with a spouse, a friend or a family member, I too have.
Those days when someone with one feels alone and defeated, I have experienced as well.
We all have our trials, and our triumphs regardless of who or what consumes us,
I have thought "oh she has no children and doesn't get it" or "He is a man, and doesn't understand"
She may be suffering in a way that I have never felt.
He could have the weight of the world on his shoulders.
We are all facing a challenge and may be able to relate to one another in more ways than we realize.
We all need encouragement, praise and empathy. We all need to feel appreciated, important and understood.
I don't know how YOU do it. Whatever you are doing.